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LinLu wrote: Dr. Chase & Bets - Many years ago a counselor told me that the longer you stay on your own, the better your chances of not ending up with that same type. I should be gold by now! 🌟🏅🌟 What you are is smart! I gave up relationships. After my dad died my Mom never even considered dating,  so I was good. Then this harmless looking sad guy shows up at my door with a friend. He'd recently come out of a 5 year relationship and just looked so sad. He was a nice guy so I thought I could show him how much fun you could have without anyone tying you down. 3 months later I was sobbing, telling him I was falling in love with him. Sobbing because that was so NOT in my plans. That was 1987. He's still my bestfriend and also my hubby. I got lucky.

A pastor told my daughter instead of trying to pursue a relationship just follow your dreams. Every so often look beside you and you might find someone there with the same dreams. I thought that was quite insightful.