Thread:Mimijpa/@comment-35319541-20180603044450/@comment-35319541-20180607054338

Oh Mimijpa, family matters are the most important things we as mothers have to deal with. They are our job. I think of you often, I know struggles with kids can wear us down, they seem to know what "buttons" to push as we say here, meaning that the kids know how to upset us, whether on purpose or thru their own pain. We just do the best we can do in that moment. You can feel free to talk to me about anything you want, anytime. Sometimes just talking helps us thru the difficult times, when we just want to pull our hair out in frustration.

Do you work outside the home and if so, what do you do? I have for most of my life worked and had my own money, and yes it is so nice to be able to do that and raise kids.

Me, I haven't been able to work since 2012, and I too miss not working, but am limited to what I could be able to do, my kids still think of me as well, like super mom who can do anything, I have hidden my problems from them, which my sister says was wrong to do, but I wanted to give them a chance at as normal a life as I was able to and not have them caring for me, but they did have to help with alot of things, not a bad thing to learn because they have grown up being more caring toward others and able to now live independently at the ages of 20 and and 22. So, I think it has worked out. My youngest is now working way too much overtime, like 60-70 hours a week and is starting to feel the wear it can take on the body. I caution him to take it easy, but he is still young, and I myself held 2 jobs when I was 18.

When I hear others stories of their illnesses or their stuggles my heart skips a beat, I am so much better in other ways than they are, so that keeps me trying to grow stronger. I would like to come thru this machine and give you a great big hug. But since I cannot, I send you hugs on-line, come here and get them!!

I do not ever think that you only think of yourself, you are a very warm and kind person, Mimijpa, and I am glad that we are friends. Your kids will realize this one day and may surprise you by saying "thanks Mom for all you did for me!" My youngest just did last week, he made me so happy that I was crying after he left, we used to just yell at one another, now I feel we have gotten so much closer. Hang in there, and one day you too will reap the rewards you deserve, my dear friend. We just have to be strong enough to get thru this time in our lives.

Hugs to you, many many hugs! lola