Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-31919789-20190113150121/@comment-35901641-20190121163745

Jurislady wrote: Hi Alzhammer - what a truly weird story but I believe every bit of it. I hate Facebook as it contributed to a friend's breakdown and he also had some very odd experiences!

I used my real name but a new gmail account. Refused to fill in any more details than were necessary. Yes, I have had the same experience as you - they suggested friends of people I did know, which is kinda scary. They did not ask for anything to verify and I have just ignored the suggested friends. I do get an email every day but simply delete it - thinking urrgggh - you creeps! Yes, I think the whole thing is scary and unnecessary but having Facebook has helped my SN experience big time. If you are brave enough to sign up and ignore their bulls**t it can reap rewards! Thanks jurislady. I haven't given up on it completely but I really don't want to use my real name. Don't you ever receive friend requests from people (other than seekers notes people) that you know? I worry that real life friends will find out that I am on it and start sending requests. I don't want to be rude by ignoring them, but I also dont want to be sucked in to any of their FB drama. There ARE somethings that I think are better left unknown or at least unsaid! I.e. differing political views. I can be friends with someone of a different political view if we leave that aspect out of our friendship. But sometimes people get carried away and forget they may not be preaching to the choir and it starts to taint how I feel about them. So I would rather just judge them on our real life interactions rather than some of the (what I think is) crazy stuff I hear they post on FB.

So far the tactic of being able to honestly tell them that I am not on FB has worked well for me. I am sure I could somehow justify the "honestly" part if I had an account just for seekers notes under a different name though ;) --robyn