Thread:Chrisiow/@comment-34532495-20180521004354/@comment-35094757-20180522144610

Maybe... but just like my one blog post... It is the best and worst thing. People seem overly concerned about who is doing what and if they are reciprocating enough. Frankly, it gets me down, and because I'm a low level, I'm constantly feeling bad, even when people are being nice to me. This isn't improved by a few "Are you sending gifts? Because I haven't had any for a while" (I'm paraphrasing) type messages. It's really turning me off of the game... or at least the community. I get tired... and am frankly insulted at the implication. I visit daily (or as near as damn it) and gift when I can, and as much as I can. I did not know there was a 100 person limit for gifta, so that could be where some of the problems lie. I have just started (yesterday) weeding the 'ZZZzzzz' friends, but I know a few are active, and I do not wish to delete them, just because they have not played for a few days. People have lives outside of HS. I've always been able to visit all of my friends (even when I had 100+). I assumed it was the same for gifts. I am now down to less than 90 (I think). I just think any who actually know me, even a little bit, know I worry about taking without giving back, and those few messages stung.

I'm not for a minute denying Cathleen meant it nicely, but that is not how it initially came over to me, and made me feel a bit like 'chump change'. I'm not saying that is how it was meant. It is how it made me feel. I'm being honest. Maybe I should just suck it up, smile and say 'fine'... but that's not me.

But I re-iterate... If you want to add me Catherine, I'd gladly accept. But if you don;t and you feel I'm too much work (believe me, I understand), then there will be no hard feelings. I just find it odd that twice now, we've disappeared from each other's lists, and to answer a question that I rudely (but accidentally) missed from a previous message... I've no had that problem (to my knowledge) with anyone else apart from a few when I had the name problems. I am considering keeping a log and have even mocked up a table to do it in a word document... But to start doing that... I just feel the game is becoming more like work than my actual work.

Thanks both of you for the contact, and for all of the help and advice you have given me thus far. It may not seem like it, but it is appreciated and the 2 of you are 2 of a small bunch that has kept me playing. Maybe that is why the words sting more than they are meant to.

Peace

Chris