Thread:EmmaRN/@comment-35319541-20180530022958/@comment-35319541-20180602200141

My you have me tearing up (crying I mean). Everyone deserves to have a crazy, zany, fun, and yes even "spank happy" bunch like mine. I can definately understand how you have ill will toward your father for taking that away from you, he did what he felt best for his family at the time, I am sure. I found it very helpful to ask my mom about all those times from the past that I could not get over, and believe me, it was hard to ask at first, but lucky for me mom would (and still does) talk for hours. Her answers to my questions have been quite helpful and calming to me. Like ok, so when I was 13 I was babysitting for my best friend's parents, I know funny, that I babysat my best friend, we are 3 years apart and she has 3 younger brothers. I loved getting to go over to "watch" the kids, it was like a giant slumber party, her parents would load us up with pizza, soda, and lots of junk food, and we played pool and whatever, we all had fun and her parents got a date night! Well one night, we had an intruder and the worst thing happened, I was raped, they moved out of town, and didn't get to see them as often, she is still my best friend to this day. We each confronted our parents on lots of issues when we were in our 40's and my mom said the worst for them was the self blame, dad had said we needed to earn our own money to appreciate the value of a dollar, and look what happened. Mom blamed herself for allowing it to happen, had she told dad no then it would not have happened, I cried and tried to explain, it could have happened anytime, anywhere, and she countered that there were articles in the paper about the man and his repeated offenses, and there were even a couple in the area, but sheez, I wished my dad were still alive to tell him it was not his fault. To not allow me to babysit  would have been the mistake