Thread:RubySparkles/@comment-31028364-20180705230142/@comment-35525658-20180706051938

No English is my 1st language and I'm sorry if you find me confusing but I feel I'm very linear. I just tend to transliterate more often than most other folks I suppose. I'm also a very direct person so if I wanted to call someone stupid I would say I feel that you acting like a stupid person. I would not just call 1 idea out of the 100's of 1000's idea they may have had that week stupid.

If someone felt they were being called stupid then (and this time I'm not trying to be snide) the smarter response is to ask for clarification instead of transferring my feelings about an idea on to a living human being. I stated in that thread that I had already addressed why I didn't like those ideas using logic so the 2nd time they were presented to me I had an emotional reaction because I really didn't care for the ideas and to me that not being confusing....it's simply being human. For example, if you told me you liked the color pale pink and I responded I don't care for pastels because they clash with my skin tone and then you tell me well we have already had a similar conversation in another thread and everyone loved the color pale pink that participated then I would feel as if  you are trying to peer pressure or bully me into supporting something I don't like and have an emotional response to you because logic did not appeal to you already.

Here is another example:

I misinterpreted something someone said earlier and they corrected me on it and I verified what was said and I gave thanks to all involved because that seemed like the logical thing to do in that situation and not place words in people's mouth by implying intent behinds statements without asking clarification questions or making clarification statements to make sure you have caught the gist of what was being said correctly because as you have stated people hail from all over the world here in this community so even though we all speak English we all have different dialects.

Secondly, Deb would not have visited my page and used a word like snide if there wasn't a problem already so in an effort to cut to the chase instead of having to guess what I did wrong or have to walk on eggshells the whole time I'm here I offered a solution to whatever the problem may be that I felt was universal as well as sincere that would resolve whatever the problem may be because I am true to my word if someone posts on my page that they don't wish for me to talk to them I'm adult enough to abide by that as long as they can agree to not talk to me in return.

So although your interjection was well intended please don't put words in my mouth and ask next time. Thank You.