Thread:Lilboops/@comment-37096511-20181206045413/@comment-35196587-20181207020838

Anyway, here we go again...Sorry, might be a “tldr” for you, especially since I had time to think about my missing post in traffic on the way home. 😂 In case it is, please tell me what you mean by “Randy?” I have no clue, though I’m a tad troubled since that is my husband’s name, so hello paranoia! Lol.

So, like Chu, I don’t typically get involved in internet squabbles (had enough of that in my 20s), so when you and Paris had your mix up, I really didn’t say anything in the thread about it. I figured 2 grown women could sort things out on their own. I only went to Admin when I saw Paris was banned for a week, and only did so on Paris’s wall. I wouldn’t even say Paris and I were friends at that point. I’d recently added her to give her some collections, and we’d barely spoken. A ban that long seemed extreme since others dinged for profanity have been typically asked to edit or remove posts on their first offense.

When I saw people *still* trying to shame a person who had already been penalized, I asked admin to delete the thread. And when admin bumped the thread about profanity, I asked a question. At no time did I disrespect the admin here. At no point did I consider asking for clarification on a policy sacrificing myself. I asked so new people would see the penalties, etc. But then came Deb saying I should be the next to go, and then others calling me names, and others telling me no one likes me. And now this post and Deb now going to my friend’s wall and saying things that are provably untrue. Whatever it is with Deb happened months before that thread, so I am still in the dark, and honestly, I really don’t care anymore. The game and the wiki were part of my entertainment, but having spent the better part of the past few weeks having crap like this launched at me, the entertainment value is waning. I “friend” anyone who wants on the game, and like in the offline world, I have friends who don’t get along. It’s not my place to referee. I however, have lost “friends” because of this petty garbage.

I am sorry you felt hurt though. You mention balance and bias, and honest to God, I was trying to be balanced and unbiased. So I am very sorry you felt I wasn’t on your side—I didn’t know sides were a thing here. So no, I didn’t reprimand her. The only person I reprimand is my kid because she’s messy. 😉

That whole thread was a disaster. People were pretty heated through it, as some of the posts probably dinged pretty hard on people’s moral compasses. I don’t give a rat if people want to progress that way, but for me the theft from Mytona seems questionable, hence why I wouldn’t do it. I did recently report a big hack to MyTona about the leaderboards, because that really did affect others.

I digress. I did see a lot of antagonizing behaviour towards Paris (even recently), and I want her to feel welcome and know that one misstep doesn’t define her. I’ve also spoken to her since that mess and understand why she said what she did. I’m pretty sure you two would like each other if you spoke, and that you might actually have words in daylight. 😊

I’ve seen a lot of the “old guard” here really not being all that welcoming to newer members. I’ve seen more than a few blogs about people feeling unwelcome, and more than a few times I’ve seen nice people belittled because they don’t post the way certain people believe they should. I read the forum for weeks before really posting here, to get a “feel” for the community. And on the second post I made which was asking a question after I had been reading and getting a feel, someone who had been here a while was not very kind. I didn’t participate very often because of that. When I did start posting, there were a few long-time members (and some newer folk) that were so lovely and welcoming, and they are why I stayed. And those people are the very reason I continue to post and continue to welcome newbs.

People shouldn’t tell others how to play the game, or how to post (unless they are violating forum policies). Everyone should be grown-up enough to co-exist. New people joining a forum are not a bad thing—it should be encouraged.

You were very nice in adding me to your gifting spree, especially now that I know I hurt you. So I am fairly confident you and I can have fun and get along well. As I said to someone else, what someone else thinks of me is none of my business, but I can tell you I think you’re quite lovely.