Thread:Llyssa1020/@comment-37437697-20190827034838/@comment-37437697-20190828024216

Dear Llyssa:

Thank YOU for such a lovely response. Yes, I believe that living things are all about the energy that we carry. Through my own experiences I think that cats are particularly sensitive to the energy of their caregivers, which is why Nick stayed with you was your leg healed. Cats sleep a lot and what better way to support your human than to sleep near them and purr. It is said that cats purr to facilitate healing in themselves as well as their owners. Also when they are content! Therefore, it stands to reason that it still hurts.

That is one of the reasons why the grieving  process is so hard, we are aware and can see that a special energy in our lives is absent. Our hearts and minds are trying to grasp that incomprehensible event as the living cease to be. Where does that energy go? I don't know, however I could swear that there have been times when I feel (a loved relative of pet) near for brief moments. Perhaps it is just memory. Perhaps not. We are taught that energy can neither be created nor destroyed. The great mystery of our collective existence.

It is nice to know that a part of him in his sister is still around and giving comfort to family. My three were all siblings, the boys even look like twins but our girl (Yoyo was her name) was a beautiful calico. She passed the day AFTER I went into the hospital. I often think if I were home as usual, I would have seen that she couldn't move her back legs early enough to save her. Therefore, I can identify with your shock at losing Bandit. That was truly unexpected as well, on many levels. You poor thing.

My understanding has always been that indoor cats typically live 18 or so years on average. So I can understand how sad and disappointing it is to lose a young fur baby. The boys are coming up on ten years old now, and the vet said that they look much younger. I attribute that to the endless love they get from my daughter.

I think it is wise of you to take two, they can be company for each other, even if they do get into sibling fights on occasion. I can see that our boys are keenly aware of how much attention each one gets, so I am always making an effort to play with or pet both when they are watching. lol Our Pip has to have dental surgery soon and I am very worried about him having  anesthetic  because it IS hard on them and not only is he very thin, he has asthma to boot.

I am sure Natasha will  come around in her own time. Emma and Bella are wonderful names. Give them a chinny scratch for me!

You are correct, our household is all about a lot of adjustment right now. She is missing them and us, we are missing her. She is still within the state, but 3 1/2 hours away. No quick trip especially through the mountains.

As much as I have cursed the "new technological media era" coming into being during my parenting years, I am glad now because, obviously, we can stay in touch, face to face  on a daily basis or near daily basis. She is the first on my side of the family to go away to college. I kind of laugh because every day we have found out that she needs this or that, plus forgot her toiletries bag, so we had to pack and ship and order things and ship them. In this way it is if she is still here.

My sister's daughters stayed at college but it was in the next town. They had their struggles and triumphs and are now graduated as an Architect and the younger is working on her Ph.D. in biomechanics. So yes, thank God successful outcomes.

There is a family weekend in September and there is a new bus service from her college to our town as of this  year so it will be easy for her to come home. She is a kind and friendly soul and has made an effort to meet people. I am sure that she will find her way after a while. It is a big growth  period. We are still here to support her, though. Letting go and supporting, a high wire act to be sure.

It is funny, that my nieces adopted a few strays that they found in their college neighborhood, and so their original cat ("Raja" the tiger in Aladin) went to my sister's house, where they also lost their childhood gold lab, and while my sister wasn't thrilled at taking on another pet at first, that is one spoiled cat now. She will be in the same boat as  your sister and buddy.

Your niece and our granddaughter sound in similar phases right now. She (her name is Natasha, lol) is 23, just got married and is still trying to figure out life, career etc. She adopted two cats and a dog with her new husband, who has finally settled on a job.

You are also right about my having a hard time. I didn't realize it at first, and wondered why I was feeling so stable throughout the whole moving process. However, the next day at another granddaughter's birthday party I suddenly felt like I was hit by a black wave and started to cry.

I  know it will be OK, but knowing things does not exempt you from feeling. At least, it shouldn't or that is  another whole set of problems,lol.

Well I have blabbed enough, I am glad you feel a bit better, I do too, and I appreciate your kindness and friendship.

Take  good care, Fondly, Mirage💕💕😿💕💕

Dear Llyssa:

Thank YOU for such a lovely response. Yes, I believe that living things are all about the energy that we carry. Through my own experiences I think that cats are particularly sensitive to the energy of their caregivers, which is why Nick stayed with you was your leg healed. Cats sleep a lot and what better way to support your human than to sleep near them and purr. It is said that cats purr to facilitate healing in themselves as well as their owners. Also when they are content! Therefore, it stands to reason that it still hurts.

That is one of the reasons why the grieving  process is so hard, we are aware and can see that a special energy in our lives is absent. Our hearts and minds are trying to grasp that incomprehensible event as the living cease to be. Where does that energy go? I don't know, however I could swear that there have been times when I feel (a loved relative of pet) near for brief moments. Perhaps it is just memory. Perhaps not. We are taught that energy can neither be created nor destroyed. The great mystery of our collective existence.

It is nice to know that a part of him in his sister is still around and giving comfort to family. My three were all siblings, the boys even look like twins but our girl (Yoyo was her name) was a beautiful calico. She passed the day AFTER I went into the hospital. I often think if I were home as usual, I would have seen that she couldn't move her back legs early enough to save her. Therefore, I can identify with your shock at losing Bandit. That was truly unexpected as well, on many levels. You poor thing.

My understanding has always been that indoor cats typically live 18 or so years on average. So I can understand how sad and disappointing it is to lose a young fur baby. The boys are coming up on ten years old now, and the vet said that they look much younger. I attribute that to the endless love they get from my daughter.

I think it is wise of you to take two, they can be company for each other, even if they do get into sibling fights on occasion. I can see that our boys are keenly aware of how much attention each one gets, so I am always making an effort to play with or pet both when they are watching. lol Our Pip has to have dental surgery soon and I am very worried about him having  anesthetic  because it IS hard on them and not only is he very thin, he has asthma to boot.

I am sure Natasha will  come around in her own time. Emma and Bella are wonderful names. Give them a chinny scratch for me!

You are correct, our household is all about a lot of adjustment right now. She is missing them and us, we are missing her. She is still within the state, but 3 1/2 hours away. No quick trip especially through the mountains.

As much as I have cursed the "new technological media era" coming into being during my parenting years, I am glad now because, obviously, we can stay in touch, face to face  on a daily basis or near daily basis. She is the first on my side of the family to go away to college. I kind of laugh because every day we have found out that she needs this or that, plus forgot her toiletries bag, so we had to pack and ship and order things and ship them. In this way it is if she is still here.

My sister's daughters stayed at college but it was in the next town. They had their struggles and triumphs and are now graduated as an Architect and the younger is working on her Ph.D. in biomechanics. So yes, thank God successful outcomes.

There is a family weekend in September and there is a new bus service from her college to our town as of this  year so it will be easy for her to come home. She is a kind and friendly soul and has made an effort to meet people. I am sure that she will find her way after a while. It is a big growth  period. We are still here to support her, though. Letting go and supporting, a high wire act to be sure.

It is funny, that my nieces adopted a few strays that they found in their college neighborhood, and so their original cat ("Raja" the tiger in Aladin) went to my sister's house, where they also lost their childhood gold lab, and while my sister wasn't thrilled at taking on another pet at first, that is one spoiled cat now. She will be in the same boat as  your sister and buddy.

Your niece and our granddaughter sound in similar phases right now. She (her name is Natasha, lol) is 23, just got married and is still trying to figure out life, career etc. She adopted two cats and a dog with her new husband, who has finally settled on a job.

You are also right about my having a hard time. I didn't realize it at first, and wondered why I was feeling so stable throughout the whole moving process. However, the next day at another granddaughter's birthday party I suddenly felt like I was hit by a black wave and started to cry.

I  know it will be OK, but knowing things does not exempt you from feeling. At least, it shouldn't or that is  another whole set of problems,lol.

Well I have blabbed enough, I am glad you feel a bit better, I do too, and I appreciate your kindness and friendship.

Take  good care, Fondly, Mirage💕💕😿💕💕