Thread:Steffie413/@comment-44680058-20200203025309/@comment-44680058-20200205001830

No worries at all about not reaching out. I get it and truly understand. Between 2001 and 2008 I lost my mother, my great aunt, my grandmother, and my aunt all to cancer. I cared for them all. Then last April of 2019, I lost my brother and father (who was living with me) 4 days apart. Both at once. The grief is overwhelming. Still.

Don't forget to cry Steffie - it is important part to help us heal. I also have used distraction to help me through it. Playing games and online streaming has been a great help to me. Even though time has passed some, I still have days of crying all day. But, as time goes on, they become less frequent. The shock of something some definite is very difficult to comprehend. But time and proper grieving helps us get through it.

I heard something recently that really helped and made me think. It is more important to remember what we have gained from those in our lives, rather than focus of what we have lost when they are gone. I now try to focus on the joy, knowledge, love, laughter, and how my life has been enhanced by the loved ones I have lost. The memories of our lives together. The experiences of each and every one of them gives the foundation of what makes me who I am today.

With these thoughts, I begin to become stronger knowing that all of them are a part of me and will be with me as time moves on. And even though I will have days when the grief strikes me heavily, I will take that day and mourn knowing that eventually time will heal me so I will awake smiling knowing that their influence in my life is with me... always.

Hugs and love to you, Angelica