Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-107.161.63.66-20200212042121/@comment-35914677-20200213071930

Zevalyiya wrote: Thank you AmyAgain that is good advice. I am friends with an Amy but I'm not sure if it's you. In the game I shorten my name to Zeva, often ZevaHiFriends or ZevaThnxFriend or someone's name for a thank you. I only have 58 friends, plus a few zombies and duplicates. I guess I became paranoid about losing friends when I was sick and only visited every other day for a week and two friends deleted me for it. Hi Zeva, we are game friends (my game name is Jean). I just want to say, I agree 100pc with Amy on this.

At one time I felt I had to visit everyone, every day. I also used to feel intimidated by the huge number of passes I received from some friends so felt obliged to try to do the same. The friend maintenance aspect stopped me playing. It was far too time consuming and to be honest, becoming tedious, especially the times I experienced the circle of doom as you are doing. (it comes and goes for me). Some of my friends do visit me every single day but the majority do not. Some only rarely visit and I've recently began to skip past those that never ever visit.

These days I don't worry if I can't visit every day. On average it's probably every other day now. If the circle of doom starts, I just give up for the day, though do try to visit the few specifically requesting a location is charged. I've also cut down on the amount of passes I send. I was sending 30 plus per day, but now it's more like 10 to 15. So far as Thank Yous are concerned, I don't expect individual thank yous for the stuff I send from friends' wish lists, and don't get them from most of my friends. Like Amy, I mostly wouldn't notice the individual thanks anyway (though might make a point of looking to see if it's been recognised if I've sent something special - the full set of Academic Treasures for instance, it's nice to know they've been received).

I don't think your friends are going to delete you if you cut down on the visiting/gifting. It may just have been coincidence you lost two friends when you were ill - they may have been quitting the game or had a game crash or something else. Just play the game and enjoy it and then do whatever you can for friends that time constraints allow.