Thread:Superkenzie/@comment-33437691-20200103172834/@comment-33437691-20200130171232

Good morning, Cheryl! It's nice to be back on track. I know you and I sometimes miss writing one day, but so far it hasn't been more than that, so not seeing that e-mail notice triggered the response of "What happened??" Though in my case I thought, "oh no, did I say something wrong??" I knew I hadn't, or that if what I had written was skew-whiff you would have leaned more to the humour intended..... Anyway, I was still relieved when I didn't see my reply, and knew THAT hadn't happened. Then I had to work out what had happened. So now I'm going to check to make sure my messages post. I was actually joking about the typing errors. I do check, but my editing experience proved that even with 6 people proof-reading articles--as we did, for every article in the magazine I referred to--mistakes got missed. And the bigger the message, the easier it is to miss them: look at huge banners; occasionally you will see spelling errors in them, but only if you're looking. They are so big, our eyes just pass over the errors. As another case in point, two nights ago I was watching an episode in the "Appollo Moon Shot" series on the Smithsonian channel, and the discussion was about one of the Apollo flights leading up to the moon landing The date printed in the caption was December 21, 1969 while the commentator was saying "...with only 1 year left to reach Kennedy's goal of putting a man on the moon before the end of the decade...". I even paused and rewound the portion to make sure I hadn't misread it and sure enough, there it was.

Well, that was a diversion, wasn't it? I just thought it was entertaining, in possibly its tiny way, but my mind does wander and become amused. Which I think is a nice trait, however much it exasperated one of my bosses: he was so linear!!

Your mentioning "assumptions" made me reflect on the message I sent to Mott within my message to you. I've been thinking (assuming!!) that she has been following this thread because she has posted several times within it, but again, that e-mail notice comes to your in-box if you've ever posted in a thread, even months earlier. And it's so easy to click on "Full Conversation" and bang! There you are. So that's why I reposted that paragraph separately.

Friction between mothers and daughters--yup, I know about that too. It's so sad, particularly when I hear about people saying how wonderful their mothers were and blah blah blah; the "blah blah blah" refers to my mother's notion of parenting, NOT yours. I'm not implying that I read "evil mother" into what you wrote, not by a long shot. She clearly had powerful and good intentions towards your future.... It's just that you as the young girl/woman on the receiving end of those powerful and good intentions clearly had other emotional needs that would have flowered with other nurturing, and oh, wouldn't it have been nice for her to have recognized that you weren't HER blank slate to write upon. I am writing this with a smile, because friction or not, I'm sure there was still a strong loving bond there. Mine went the other way, totally ignoring what I was doing and focusing only on what my eldest sister was doing--or rather, what she wasn't doing. For all of my accomplishments, and I do have a string of them, my mother's typical comment was, "Oh, if only xxxxx had finished...fill in the blank..." Fortunately, I am an adult, and after many, many years of working through it I can see that the failing was in her, not me. 😜😜😜 (that's me sticking my thumbs in my ears with that nada nada nada, can't hurt me gesture of childhood! How satisfying!).

How time has flown. It's my son's birthday and he's just called to remind me that we're going out--right now! Oops.

I've just had an idea: if I create a temporary e-mail address and post it here, once you've used it, I can send you my real e-mail address in private...at least, once I work out how to do that!! Must run. All the best.