Thread:Chrisiow/@comment-35319541-20180512171736/@comment-35094757-20180512185819

ImLola wrote:

PS remember if your opinion differs or someone seems arguementative, as you found out, let them have their say and in your mind agree to disagree-let be bigones be bigones

I am quite happy to do that... but when someone flat out calls me a liar, and then posts on my wall DEMANDING that I tell them what I do... that makes it more than a 'disagreement'. I found it odd, as this person seems highly regarded. But one thing I don't do is lie. In fact I'm the exact opposite. I'm fairly blunt (I can be tactful, honestly), but always truthful... and sometimes when friends ask me advice, I always say "Do you want to hear what I really think, or an affirmation of your views?" I seem to be the one my friends come to when they're tired of having smoke blown up their ass by the "you go girl/boy!" friends who just appease them and then are there to mop up when it goes wrong. I always try to stop it going wrong. My close friends, who know me well value that in me. For instance one male friend was going through hassles, and I met him for lunch over a number of weeks (he was in a real state and off work with stress), and it was 'personal stuff'. I sympathised up to a point, but also pointed out he was being somewhat of an arse... He ultimately sorted his life out and I got an expensive bottle of wine as thanks for 'telling him what he needed to hear'.

I agree with everything else you say, and it is only the kindness of people here that kept me playing the game and not giving up in frustration with all of the problems I had. :-)

Thanks

Chris

My job isn't THAT important. It's an office job... petty bureaucracy. Which involves lots of meetings about bugger all, and using lots of buzzwords, and it drives me crazy. I love my job, and the people I work with, who I am in charge of... and even some I work for. But the constant focus away from our actual jobs and more on reports and 1-2-1s and stuff like that is sapping everyone's morale. There are often productivity meetings and I have been known to say "What about scrapping the reports and 'pink and fluffy' stuff and concentrating on what we are actually here for? It got a round of applause from some, and I was a marked man to others.

Story of my life. :-)

Thanks again x