Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-35196587-20180922174935/@comment-35196587-20180922184811

Alumni72 wrote: I don't get the selectivity either - it sounds like a combination of elitism and selfishness, although not knowing the people, there could be good reasons why they have those policies.

Personally, when I started I accepted anybody who asked to be a friend - I didn't really know what use they would be, but I've never been one to take a chance hurting someone's feelings, so I never said no. A bunch of them went silent soon after and became zombies, but I hung onto them for a while anyway 'just in case'.

I've come to the conclusion, based on how much time I spend on what I call the "preliminaries" every morning (gifting and visiting) and how much time it seems to take, I don't want to get over 100 friends at any point, and 75 would be quite the acceptable limit. I don't ever want to get to the point where I don't have enough time to deal with my friends before I do anything for myself in-game, so I am careful about adding friends - I no longer use the in-game random inviter tool, although once in a while I get someone inviting themselves, and of course I don't turn them down - unless they're named Seeker and have very bizarrre statistics. And I check my friends list every month now to see who is still active and whose statistics are remaining the same over a period of a few weeks - potential zombies to trim down the list.

Mytona hasn’t been great with keeping the zombies updated. I have folks who haven’t played the past 3 events who aren’t “ZZed.”

I like diversity in friends both in SN and in RL. ❤️