Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-30891950-20170303185912/@comment-28829111-20170304075037

It is entirely possible that what upsets some of the players is an (over) emphasis on gifts. Any gifts. The underlying theme (whether intentional or not) seems to focus on Visiting (CI gifts), Gifting (the right way or the right gift or the right free gift), or TT (Gifts, right gifts, right amount, not "lose" any). As was said, a forum it is difficult to convey messages, tone, intent, etc....

As a player who is able to TT, better stated "volunteers" to TT, and is far enough along in my game I am fortunate to be at a place in the game where I can gift items that issue energy, tools, fixers, and talisman. I enjoy the gifting aspect but will admit this sort of thread makes me uncomfortable. I can't explain why except to say that IRL if your parent, friend or spouse gave you a gift it seems highly unlikely you would be "analysing" it so much. Yes, one would hope after 10 years of being together (my analogy to an experienced player) that on your birthday your spouse would not give you a scented candle (pretend you have 30 already and it is my analogy to string). The point here is you would not call out "foul" or say "I wish you would gift better" (of course, I'm assuming one would not LOL!), or you didn't give me enough gifts, or you gave me too many gifts. And what if Baron Bomburst banned Gifts in Vulgaria but turned a blind eye when Time Travelers delivered toys to all the children - would it be wise to initiate so many various discussions of the topic. Just guessing here...but that might be at least part of the frustration (possibly anger and disillusionment) toward some of the ongoing dialogs. Gifting is personal for each player. Some like TT, some don't, some like to send alot one day but not others, some like the daily limit of 10 others do not. Several of you have posted you're not sure why TT is a sensitive subject but do seem to recognize it is. Yet here is another new post about just that. It feels like you are poking the bear(s) in the cave. MommaT - this line kind of spells out exactly what I find disturbing " I gift heavily if I need items." I am certain you don't really only gift to get something back in return. Gifting is supposed to not have strings attached...(haha - see the string always comes back and weaves it way into the world of SN)