Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-35319541-20180607080224/@comment-35243530-20180612045229

Your granddaughter sounds like a doll!! And I can certainly relate to the old body parts, aches and pains - this getting older isn’t for sissies is it?! If the other grandparents aren’t available to help, that’s their loss as far as I’m concerned! I know the two of you will make it through it - that’s just the way you are. When the chips are down, you just keep going. Inner strength is a gift and I pity those who haven’t been granted it.

I’m so sorry to hear that your brother suffered for so long. I, too, pray Mum doesn’t linger if she’s going to go. Just as I’m sure you wish your brother had suffered less. Not that you would have wished his life away, just that it had been less painful and filled with more joy and happiness. Hospice is no place to linger indefinitely! On the other hand, my Dad might be enjoying his first break in some 65 years - finally having some well deserved time to himself! 😉 He was such a humble, generous man. Everyone who met him spoke highly of him and remarked on his seemingly infinite patience with my (very demanding) mother. They moved into a beautiful retirement residence, where finally he no longer had to shoulder all the cooking, cleaning and other responsibilities. When we commented on this well deserved placement, he would reply that it was all for Mum; that he could have done quite well with much less, but that she’d been such a good wife and mother that she deserved no less than the best. I’ll leave it there before I say something I’ll regret! I’m glad you realize that a lung transplant was apparently not a viable solution according to the doctors and you’re not playing the “what if/if only” game, second guessing the decisions made by the experts. I know exactly how hard that is! I thank you for the virtual strength and am sending more back your way - it doubles when you share it, doesn’t it? 😸 But you’ve had enough strife and I can shoulder this one. After all, I’ve had a good 9(ish) months to adjust to Dad being gone, and having lost both my in-laws several years back, it’s not the first time through all of this. Big, big virtual “huggles” back to you too! It’s funny, isn’t it? We all have close RL friends, but it’s amazing how strong our friendships here can become. Two of my best friends I’ve never met in person - they live in California to my Ontario and we met playing Criminal Case - but, for example, in one instance, I was the person who got the emergency notification to call the police when she was in danger and I was the one turned to when the other nearly moved to Australia with their beau - and the shoulder cried on when it didn’t work out.

I hope your daughter’s wedding is everything she ever dreamed and that you have an absolutely amazing time celebrating her day!

Love you too!

Mistress Kat xxoo