Thread:Vicki04/@comment-33396547-20180510183434/@comment-35315474-20180511032905

Okay, I understand what you were saying now. Let me preface my comments by stating that I like you, Arcana777, and from the very little I saw of Terri, I think I will like her as well. I also should disclose that I have been invited to join her group, have accepted, and am now on a waiting list. I don't think it's a big deal either way, but I'd prefer to be upfront about it.

Every person is a mixture of good and bad. We make mistakes. We say things that may be misunderstood. We misunderstand others. Communication between people is mostly nonverbal (e.g., facial expressions, body positioning) so we can really get things wrong when all we have are words typed out (and maybe some emojis).

Since the only one we have control over is ourselves, I think it's best to not focus on others. I'm busy enough with trying to assess situations and arrive at my own conclusions and behaviors as it is. I also think most people are able to decide for themselves how they feel about the behavior of others. And I think it's not only acceptable, but healthy to accept when others see things differently because we all have our own perspectives on every situation.

In other words, I'd rather not talk to you about Arcana777 or Terri any more than I'd want to talk to either of them about you. You have a right to your feelings and perspectives which may or may not be the same as mine. Ditto for everyone else. In the end, I strongly doubt there are many things any group of people can see the exact same way. Hell, my husband of 33 years and I still see some things differently! But as long as we allow each other to have differing thoughts and opinions, then I think most people can get along pretty well.

Lots of the "royal we" in that. Sorry for that. It's hard to say what I mean, but I hope you can figure out what I'm trying to say. 💖