Thread:Chrisiow/@comment-35315474-20180520225832/@comment-35094757-20180520231533

I have never... ever.. said I can't do stuff because I have to work and insinuated that other peple don't. Never ever. I may have said things lie.. I have to do otehr stuff like 'eat, and sleep, and work'... but that was more meant to imply that the game was taking over and I have to 'disconnect' a bit and start focusing on other stuff. That is all I meant.

You're not the only one who has misconstrued what I have meant. I have to admit I've never had this problem elsewhere. maybe it's a gender thing.. maybe it's a nationality thing... I have no idea. Maybe my jokes and allusions are just crap. Either way it's a bit depressing to constantly be 'scolded' in public on te threads, and also given sage advice by some people about how not to be too sensitive and not misunderstand what they mean... and then those same people do exactly the same to me.

I know none of it is meant to be mean. In fact most is meant to be friendly, but when someone says "Chris, you shouldn't get upset aboUt X, Y or Z. You're taking it all wrong" like I'm a child or a numbskull, and then they get upset in exactly the same way about something I've said... as I said, it's depressing. I don't think it's anyone's fault in particular.

About myself. My parents ran a public house. My dad dies when I was 18, and my mum when I was 24. I served behind the bar from age 16 (I looked older), and started work in my current office at 18. I still worked behind the bar, and after dad died, helped my mum run the pub, AND worked in the office. I work in a high-pressure job, and it often involves acting as a mediator (ironic, no?), and I've been doing it a long time and am considered to be pretty good at it. It's only a small part of my job (an extra I do to help out staff and management), but I've been at my job since 1981. I am now 55 (56 in a couple of months).

The above isn't aimed at you... and I thought I'd share, as you did. Thank you very much for sharing.

I said a while back that I was going to step back from general commenting on the forum, as I'm tired of pissing people off left, right and centre... and frankly, tired of constantly explaining stuff. I'm fairly certain quite a few people I like quite a lot (you included), who I'd love to be closer friends with (on facebook or whatever) are forever pissed of with me.. and it's a bit upsetting and demoralising.

Thank you so much for taking the time to explain and open up. It's greatly appreciated.