Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-34343471-20181214005458/@comment-35243530-20181214072015

If it’s something that was given to you as a reward, then you should get ALL of it. Anything you decide to give him, he should consider a bonus and be grateful for. He shouldn’t just expect to get it. Now I realize our kids aren’t perfect - my 30 year old is as bad or worse now than when he was a teenager, though he went through a really good period between the ages of about 19 and 27. But you may need to put your little foot down and make him understand that he can’t just expect you to give in to him. I was probably the meanest mother ever, but my son grew up with values and ethics that he still holds today. It’s only when his wife gets involved that things turn inside out, or when he feels the need to defend her. I’ve no idea what turned her against me as we were close when they were dating and even after they broke up for a year - without me they wouldn’t be together today! But whatever it is, she won’t allow my granddaughter to visit here and makes me feel unwelcome when I visit there. And I choke up every time I think about it because I’m just so confused. So I try to avoid any pitfalls when we speak and just hope for the best because otherwise I end up the subject of a vicious attack that I know is orchestrated by her. I hate it, because I have to shut up and let them make their own mistakes - or those her parents help them fall into because despite the fact they think they know everything, they really have a lot of things wrong. 😹😹😹 Apparently they even know more than I do about the laws I work with on a daily basis when I’m able to work. And as a result, I see a whole boatload of trouble headed in their direction.