Board Thread:News and Announcements/@comment-30891950-20170511141506/@comment-30514476-20170512080710

Hi guys, I just want to say that everyone is a valuable member of this community. I fully understand how upsetting this was/still is but I really hope we can resolve this and put it behind us moving forward.

"The most important thing to remember during conflicts is why you are on the wiki – you are here to have fun! Wikis should be a hobby you enjoy participating in - one you want to visit everyday. Don't let conflicts ever get in the way of that. " -Wiki Community Central

We're human, it's the internet, misunderstandings happen. It is so very easy to get into disputes online and get our feelings hurt but please remember that we are all here for more or less the same reason ( our mutual love for the game) and that there is a real live person at the other end of the conversation with feelings as well. Yes discussions can turn on a dime due to our personal biases and things become heated and we can lose our cool and so in the heat of the moment, we sometimes say things that are better left unsaid. The least we can then do is own up and make amends. Apologies can do wonders.

I found this Wiki guide on how to cope with conflict helpful and hope you will too:

Occasionally, harsh words get flung around – occasionally by long-standing contributors, but more often by newcomers. There are various ways to deal with this:

1. Just ignore it. Name-calling may be offensive, but it is not very helpful or mature. Go about your business, and do not worry about it; you are not required to respond.

2. Politely ask the person who you feel has insulted you to retract what they said. Sometimes people say something insulting by accident, not realizing that their words could be taken in a certain way. Other times people will change the way they act when they realize they have offended someone. That said, it is rarely useful to demand an apology or retraction. If you yourself, through accident or anger, insult someone, an apology might smooth things over. If you sincerely meant the insult and cannot honestly apologize, sometimes it is best to fall silent. If that does not work, try refocusing on the issue at hand; try to be more specific about what action you disagree with, rather than insulting the person.

3. Instead of reacting to the insult with a return insult, or getting upset, try to concentrate on figuring out why they insulted you. In most cases, they may just be kidding you. If that is not the case, then try not to let their problem(s) become yours. We all have enough problems in our lives.

4. Understand that this is the internet, and it is an open invitation for individuals to be critiqued. Not taking it personally and realizing that it goes with the territory is crucial.

5. Log out for a while and allow yourself to calm down. Pour yourself some lemonade and consider both your actions and theirs. When you feel you are calm enough, log back in and attempt to resolve the issue.

6. Remembering this simple statement can help keep you grounded when hot air begins to blow. Also, count to ten and be calm.

"I will always assume good faith and will be civil at all times, even to those who are not civil to me. I will not attack my fellow members or cause unrest to make a point."