Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-28979424-20171207172447/@comment-30891950-20171207233010

Here is a post of mine from last March;

Mama Terri Thank you, linka for drawing my attention to the fact that I am posting too much. I honestly didn't realize I was overdoing it. I'm having so much darn fun with this game that I suppose I get carried away and I do chatter too much.

I've taken your words to heart and I'll try to limit my comments. 00:44, March 4, 2017

Yes, I was apologizing for "posting too much." My "friendly banter" was shut down. I was told that new members shouldn't post so much and that they should just read the posts for a few months. This type of attitude towards the posts of new members is why the "banter" doesn't happen. People get downhearted and look for somewhere else to post.

I started the other site to have a place where people could post without being attacked by trolls who weren't even registered members! That is why the site is by invitation only, to prevent those unregistered trolls from destroying a fun place. Here, as has been posted on numerous occasions and most eloquently by 5sides, you can't post ANY private information, game codes, etc. without risk to your security. A very private, small group made up only of people who know each other creates an environment that feels much safer so we are able to talk more freely. We also have contests and raffles and other events that need to be limited to a closed group for it to function. And, yes, we have a rule in place that if two or more members are against any applicant, their application is declined. The admin has to abide by the wishes of the existing membership.

There is another private group that exists that also limits membership to invitation only. What is the difference? I've seen several people ask about this other group only to be ignored. Isn't that the same as rejecting an application?

The wikia serves a wonderful purpose - you are the encyclopedia for the game info. We do something completely different. We don't pretend to be the source of detailed info for the game and I tell members that if they want that depth of information, they need to go to the wikia. We are just a small group of friends who wants to just have fun.

Numerous people drop in here, ask for friends and then are never heard from again. Some of us may drop in once in a while, post for new players to help, then we are out of your hair. I ask for new members then ask them to contact me where I can talk to them privately. I try to avoid mentioning raffles, contests or anything of the sort here as I have been told that that is comparable to "luring them with candy." Do you intend to ban all posts hunting for new members if they are not from active members of the wikia?

I have told our members to refrain from posting our link and information about the contests, raffles and such on the main discussion board of the wikia. But, sometimes they are enthusiastic and want to bring their best friend over to join them and they describe what we do in a private message. Is the Admin of this site prepared to moderate private conversations between members? Enacting a rule forbidding members to discuss certain things in private messages is a bit over the top.

As to the SG on the members avatars,  a few enthusiastic members started that. They wanted to let the other members in the group know who they were when they sent a friend request. It is totally harmless and they like it, so why complain about something that makes other people happy?

YES I think your admin should take a VERY serious look at why so many members jump ship as soon as they find a friendlier port. Is the problem truly with one tiny little friends group, or is the problem with this site?