Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-35379880-20180501153835/@comment-35315474-20180502190733

To play devil's advocate...

(1) Using friend numbers. My friend number is high because I have 60 sleepers. That is because my FB account is a 10 year old gaming account. Over the years, many of my FB game friends became FB outside of the game so they're still in my FB friends list. I have over 2,000 FB friends as a result. I also administrate a FB group for another game (the group is over 5 years old now). So using the number of friends in the game can be misleading. Some players with a lot of friends are actually excellent game friends.

(2) Using rep numbers. My rep is low for my level. My level is 89 (as of last night) while my rep is only 31. Why? Well, two reasons. For one, I'm pushing it hard to level up. I have leveled up from 82-89 in just the last few days -- so I can send better passes to my friends! Secondly, when I first started playing SN, I visited my friends every day. I stopped when I got that popup saying that I had received all the visiting bonuses I could for the day, come back tomorrow (or something like that). I misunderstood that to mean I could not visit any more friends at all! So I stopped. I think at that time I could only get around 10 bonuses? Imagine how long it took to increase my rep with only 10 visits each day! Now I know I can visit 100 friends every day, and I do. I only rarely miss a day. I even visit sleepers! I'm working to get my rep points up, but it takes time. So using rep points as a guide may be misleading.

(3) Thread. Oh, wow, how much we all hate seeing thread as a gift! Because a number of my game friends came from my FB friends list, I have the advantage of being able to message some of them. One of my friends was level 116 and only sent thread! So I finally asked her. Turned out she didn't know she could send anything else out. She didn't even know it wasn't coming out of her own inventory! After I told her, she has sent me much better gifts, including CIs on my WL when she can. I have other non-board and non-FB game friends who apparently don't know they can send better gifts for free. Just recently, I received from one friend this odd combination of gifts: 1 CI from my WL, 3 more random CIs, and... drumroll please... thread. I had just sent her a full collection that gave her food, and she clearly wanted to reciprocate and tried her best, but I think she doesn't know about sending free fixers. Therefore, some thread givers may be wonderfully generous friends who will give better as they learn.

My point in this. I still maintain that we should remove any player we do not enjoy in the game. It honestly does not matter the reason. Like Lola said, maybe you just don't like their avatar! That's good enough reason!

However, if we only used those measurements as hard and fast rules, then I would not be freinds with most of you. I have a high friend count, my rep is only now around a 3:1 level/rep ratio, and I used to send thread. I just did not know better.

Fortunately, I found this site! Thanks to the wonderful wiki information and the fabulous people here, I now send numerous CIs (including full collections) and TT lots of nice passes and fixers. I know I'm not everyone's best game friend, but I think I am an excellent game friend for most people! And, yet, I would be turned down by most players if they only used those stats as a judge.

I think the moral of my (yikes! preachy!) story is to look at the whole of the friend and not make snap judgements based on just one or two of their stats. 😊

''And sorry for this coming out so preachy! That was not what I intended! I just hope you all know me well enough to know I'm not feeling preachy even if my words on a screen may appear that way.'' 💖💕💖💕💖💕