Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-35284508-20180417160128/@comment-35315474-20180417182042

Lola, there is nothing minor about your feelings! The feelings you have over problems going on in your life are no less just because someone else has a different set of problems. You have every right to feel as you do.

It can be especially hard when it comes to our kids. We love our kids so much, and when things aren't going well for them, it can really bring us down. I also have adult children (one moved back home with us six months ago, trying to recover from alcoholism – she's done well, but has slipped a few times which really hurts). I sometimes think our kids' problems cause us more pain than they cause themselves!

And when things aren't going well in one area, it magnifies everything. It's like we've reached our limit of what we can handle so even the smallest thing over that is just too much. Sometimes we just have to remember that our kids are living their lives and making their mistakes, and there is nothing we can do other than be there for them when they are ready. Meanwhile, we have to live our own lives (and make our own mistakes!).

Although I know I can't change anything in your situation, I want you to know that I care. We may have not known each other very long, but your thoughtfulness and kindness of others has endeared me to you almost immediately. You are such a good and caring person. Please know you have many great friends who truly do care about you. I hope things get better for you. Meanwhile, I will wrap my digital arms around you for a warm hug. ❤️