Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-38310889-20190805052025/@comment-38946466-20190805225956

I think this is a nice and well meaning post. We should share what kind of game friends we are and what we expect from game friends.

There are several points here that are bundled together, not necessarily correlating to each other. Meaning this post is likely to also be a bit less linear 😉

I think Fandom users are worthy game friends. I think sending and receiving a gift in a game from a person you've never met and are not likely to meet, possibly from a different part of the planet is a lovely experience. We might not even talk the same language but still, the act of sending a gift and responding with a thank you for that is a wonderful human experience.

I still have some original game friends from MyTona. They don't TT, they charge trophies, but they are my initial friends and I'm quite happy they are still there.

We are all different people and play game differently. Some will use these in game friendships perhaps as social media friendships. Some will stay strictly in game friends. Some will mix, depending on common interests. There is no right or wrong way about this. There is no reason to make one group feel inferior/superior to the other.

MyTona has limited us to 100 gifts/visits per day. With a lot of work (and some like doing that), one can gift more than 100 people per day and visit more than that, but I assume for vast majority, there is a balance between how much time is spent playing and how much time gifting and more than 100 active friends is difficult to keep. We can have much more wiki friends, even when not in game friends.

Additionally, I suspect at one time or another, all of us have been helped by wonderful friends from here. And I assume we also want to help some new players. I know I do and always add lower level friends or some who just started using the friends aspect.

Removing friends... There are various criteria. In terms of leaving messages on somebody's wall it depends on whether you know what their page is (and a lot of players have user names that are not similar to their in game names) and whether you feel it is necessary. Again, individual.

Personally, I do know my friend list quite well and do notice immediately if they stopped playing or they happily play and wiki post just decided to take a break on the friendship aspect. Which is fine with me as a wiki friend but not fine with me as a game friend because visiting and gifting does take time. Or for example they charge trophies, I send several don't charge trophies roses and you can guess what happens next... I don't leave messages on their walls in that case. Frankly, I don't think they even notice, nobody left a message on my wall about that.

When a friend abruptly disappears... I don't know what to say. I get extremely worried. Snoop around for signs of activity. Hope they have a new favourite game. Try to think positive thoughts. I panic. Repeated every day when I visit and if somebody has a talent I use often, repeated every time when I hire them. I don't think there can be a protocol for handling that. It is really individual.

I guess the point I'm trying to make (and if you made it to the end, here is something for a good night 🍷) is that this is a game. An interesting, time consuming, money taking game. And if we managed to be entertained and perhaps forget something less than ideal in our lives, awesome!!! If we managed to make even one friend while playing it, isn't it wonderful? If we make even one person a day happy with our gifts, isn't it great? A virtual place where we can make each other smile 🌹