Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-107.161.63.66-20200212042121/@comment-40112086-20200212210746

Zevalyiya wrote: I always have a delay of at least 20 seconds and sometimes as long as a minute between each friend I visit. It takes me at least an hour and a half to visit my friends, sometimes that means I can't play the game at all. It takes 20-30 minutes just to receive gifts especially if I have to go through the whole gift box multiple times to change my name for thank yous. Gifting takes about half an hour. Lately I haven't been able to play because all my free time is taken up just trying to maintain friends. I've been wondering how everyone has the time to do this but maybe the process is faster for other people. I guess I have slow wifi. I get really confused with user names/game names so I'm not sure if we're friends or not.

However, I will say, I do NOT expect personal thank yous - especially in the blue boxes. it is nice but honestly, I don't always see them because when I send a lot of gifts, I generally sort for "random" and accept all.

When I receive passes, I usually don't send named thank yous. I feel that my friends know I appreciate their passes - just as they appreciate mine. If someone sends something from my WL or a collection, I will usually change my name to accept it and then send one pass or sometimes a rose or even a CI I have several of to thank a friend for that. But again, I don't feel it is necessary. I send between 25-30 collection items from WLs daily. I don't even notice if someone personalizes a thank you.

My point? take a little pressure off yourself for that at least. Also, I do not have the delay you experience. If I did, I'd probably divide my list in half and only visit half each day, I don't think your friends would feel cheated by that. You'd lose a bit in your CIs from visiting but I don't think you'd lose friends.

Finally, I don't know if you TT. It you do, I'd recommend maybe making one or two days "big" gifting days. Otherwise, just send 5 or 10. When I first started TTing, I got inspried - and intimidated - by some people who send so many. I loved it and wanted to do that also. I just realize that I can't every day.

Having friends is GREAT. Being a good friend feels really good. And sometimes when I have a little burn out with the game, I'll spend tons of time gifting but when it starts to wear you down a little, please give yourself permission to back off a little and just enjoy the game.

The only time I feel that a friend is a little selfish is when they say they are super busy/sick so can't visit or gift but hit the Top 200 on the leaderboard or zoom ahead 10 games levels in two weeks with no change to their rep level. But still, that's their right to enjoy their game their way.