Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-38310889-20190805052025/@comment-35508590-20190809223518

I took some time with an answer.

I don’t like this thread because it implements how someone should act. Let me do it „short“ and without rating all your opinions, just a few thoughts.

I had a some kind interactions with many players in the wiki. Some were more memorable, others not, in one way or another. I don’t really feel personally addressed because we were not friends for long and didn’t interact much.

If I have the impression that someone is not playing anymore, then I will not delete him for that reason alone. I look back, I see that now and try to judge the future with it. If there was not much in the past and nothing now, what do I see in the future? If the past is a long way off and now there is nothing (or almost nothing), what do I see in the future?

It's not just the impressions in the game, but also the ones in the forum. I also admit that some impressions are stronger than others and I may overlook some things (which may be good or bad).

So it‘s not just hit the X. I question my friends according to certain criteria and no, I usually don’t write to them before. Why? As you say, friendships are two-sided. If they can’t answer, it doesn’t help to ask them anyway. If they can answer, they could have left a note or an update themselves. So if this friend means more to me, I'll ask him and if I do not share much with him, then not. These don’t seem to notice my absence in the FL anyway.

Further, more objectively, the friendship is over. I don’t have much time, so I want friends who now play regularly or make me smile in the forum or whatever positive interaction. So, for example, if somebody says he's gone for a while, that's fine, if he doesn’t come back or say he's gone even longer and I can‘t look back on much that connects us positively, then maybe I'll hit the X.

I don’t like to delete friends. But it is like cutting back a tree a bit (please forgive me for this comparison), it rejuvenates it and new shoots can grow.

Yes, tolerance is important and everyone has its own limits, so I also tolerate the different tolerance limits. There are the communicative and introverted players / members. Some just need a break. Then there are the ones that I just do not or rarely see, and I have not been able to look back on anything in common for some time. There are also those who prefer not to talk about their reasons, why they can not play right now, so if they want, they can leave a note on their wall, but if they do not want to talk about it and therefore do not post, it may be more pleasant for both not to question them.

There were also those who deleted me for various reasons and sometimes without explaining it to me. Maybe it was that: I sent too much or too little, I was too slow or I leveled up too fast, I said something or did not say the friend is not in SN anymore (but maybe in Ravenhill) and so opens up a spot for a new friend in my list, and so on. So maybe I wonder, but I also consider this: Rational - I'm in the past for this formerfriend, no need for him to go any further with explainations. Missing the logic and I really like this friend - maybe it was a mistake? Emotionally - It might be a bit uncomfortable for my former friend to continue talking open to me for different reasons, so I let him go his own way.

And while an inactive friend is in my FL, there could also be an active one there who appreciates my friendship. Some also see it the other way around, too active a friend, can help others better while they do not need so much help for themself. So I think my inactive friends understand my decision when I delete them and that‘s why I want not add to much super TT friends.

I've also seen as a side note why someone deleted a friend because he was friends with me and therefore any other friend is superfluous anyway. Hint, hint @Bellatrix, welcome to this discussion! That really saddened me and I said some things there and much rather not. I prefer the truth and I don’t want to hurt anyone, so I still prefer to stay with some unsaid. Bellatrix, since you have considered yourself superfluous for whatever reason, further comments from me are superfluous. You know my feelings, only sadness and compassion and I regret that that was the last impression for both of us, but you said it and manifested with it.

O, you're talking about bullies, and you're so close at exactly this point when you say, "So I have thought of removing you Mollx, when sending passes ... when associated with bullies it makes one wonder." If you appear so thoughtful here, then please be that too. I think you can do it better.

For me, there is not just some form of wisdom, so thank you that you try to teach me the subtleties and sharing the wisdom of your friends. Many wisdoms may make me wiser.

Yes, the friendship aspect generates emotions. Not sure if I could give a better answer with a longer answer, but I wish I could always answer precisely with fewer words. So don’t need to add some colorful and distracting emoticons to your post.

Thank you for your thoughts, the ideas and answers are interesting. And this is my kind of tollerance: I am just me - and you are you.

I hope for positive resonance, may everyone find what makes him happy.