Thread:Smiler106/@comment-28380783-20160816201742/@comment-28829111-20160817020320

I wish I had better insight but it seems as if some people have many accounts and they don't really play but use the accounts as a pass through for fixers. Others seem to be on the up and up. Talou cautioned me not to try to figure out how others play so I just ignore the lists that have exactly the same things day after day. I pass through my gifting pages pretty quickly now and don't worry if the same people want the fangs, feathers, etc... I give one per day and these players do seem to collect them daily. I have not evaluated whether they are playing now (progressing) or not. I tend to focus on the new players and help them where needed. My mom used to give 1$ to any homeless person she came in contact with. Mostly this occured while she was visiting me as she lived in a retirement area with little contact to busy cites where homeless might be near her. I once asked her why - didn't she feel some of them would buy alcohol or drugs which would be worse for them. Her answer (paraphrased): "I give because I can and I have had ups and downs in my life. People fall on hard times and it is not my place to judge how they spend the dollar, just to hope that it makes a difference somehow." Since then, and her passing, I just sort of adopt that philosophy everywhere. If I can give I will and not think about what they might do with the money/fixer/collection item. I don't want to be taken advantage of, though. So, I guess the long answer is give as your heart allows and cut off where you feel someone(s) might be taking advantage. I felt terribly guilty deleting people 3 weeks ago but now I realized the advice I got here was good and fair. If the person is not really playing (no activity in 10 days and no "away" message) I delete them. They can alwasy ask to be a friend again later if they had a problem with a computer/device or were on vacation. I do not keep a big list of friends at all. I have around 80 on the main account and can gift around 90. So some wiggle room.

On the baby account I only have you gals/guys and a handful of others....maybe 25 total? I can gift up to 40 or 50 but don't feel like evaluating players constantly or taking more time to gift than I already do. I feel I am as generous as my time currently allows. I hope you can find a better balance, Sheils. Me thinks your heart is too big, too and the guilt sets in.Gifting 20 feathers at a time is uber generous. I hope I am supplementing feather creation for others and not doing all of it for them. You gals gave me an awesome start but I kept making two a day until I had enough to go back and forth with and to share a few with others on that baby account. Now I have at least 60 there and that is plenty for now. It stays stable. Your other friends should be able to make one a day especially at level 60! Everyone here is very sweet and generous so I guess finding a balance without getting frustrated is key. I look to you gals for advice on this.